Loving a non-English speaker means keeping it simple, even when the situation is a big tangle. "You saw my ugly," I told him yesterday. "And I saw yours." A gnarly situation has absorbed us this summer, and pushed all our buttons. Just because he curses in Hungarian, I told him, doesn't mean I don't pick up the vibe.
My Leo BFF pointed out it's true we see each others dark side in relationships. And she added, "There is also beauty in ugly, I opine."
A particular situation has squeezed a lot of volatile emotions to the surface, and in the process, taken us beyond our usual edge. I like this quote from John Steinbeck, "A journey is like marriage. The certain way to be wrong is to think you control it." There are raw feelings that change everything when they're expressed. Even in a marriage, I wonder if "Well, that's it...." Like we've reached the tipping point of what the relationship can withstand. Something in me has to realize again and again, that this is a solid thing. Maybe that's part of learning to trust that love will last.
This week, Venus in emotional Cancer hits turbulence with the transformational Uranus-Pluto square. Venus in Cancer, brings us round to emotional and financial security, a desire for a safe and cozy home, longing for family life. Venus in Cancer shows us how good it feels to be in synch with our authentic emotions.
With Venus opposition Pluto: (Cancer-Capricorn at 7 degrees) Wednesday at 2:11 am Pacific, being emotionally honest could carry a seed of potential for inside-out change. There could be some disruption of the status quo, but a relief at being real -- and letting the chips fall where they may.
With Venus square to Uranus: (Cancer-Aries at 7 degrees) on Wednesday at 11:48 pm Pacific, a shocking plot twist comes from this urge to live free, and not hold back how you really feel. With both aspects, there can be a purgative effect that's messy and out of control. There can be outbursts, implosions and explosions -- at work, in the classroom, with strangers in line. The more you've stuffed down, the more "stuffing" there is to fly out all over the place.
Venus gets around, as the love planet is also in a trine to Chiron, the planet of living with our deepest wounds. What's brought out becomes part of your medicine, the healing force of your character as you go forward.
With friends, family, beloved, we find out what we're made of, and can be surprised by how tough a bond is. That it can handle a lot more honesty than we thought -- and even evolves into something better after a big blow out. It's a Dark Moon to Friday, for releasing all that's churned up, and giving yourself time to integrate the changes.
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