Who we're attracted to is often very telling, especially when the allure is to someone so totally different. The attraction is to "soul qualities" we're yearning for at that time in our lives, writes Jackie Stewart in the article Why Opposites Attract. And, "On a vibrational level it is because we sense that they have a quality we need for balance. The other person has a soul quality that our soul seeks to embody more within ourselves."
When the 'vibes' are seen through the lens of astrology, you start to see trends in your friendships and love life. I know this is true in my life. There was that year of Gemini women in my life -- a roommate, colleagues, adviser. Was I learning from seeing Gemini in its many guises?
And then there's the drive to balance the masculine/feminine. Writes Jackie, "When someone (and it can be a man or woman) carries a lot of male energy (driven, active, logical and initiating) they will often seek the counterpart to that in their partner. So they will be drawn to someone who carries a lot of female energy (creative, intuitive, nurturing and sharing)."
And vice versa, as I experienced with someone I fell in love with, that had a lot of forceful, creative fire energy. This happened at my Saturn return, with Saturn in cardinal fire Aries. It was brutal, I have to say, mainly because I had no context for it -- like astrology! The energies we're drawn to, like particular elements, show us what's up -- what teachings in relationship are bringing more wholeness now?
I find another guide is jealousy. If I'm jealous of someone's life, or who they are, I see if I can't isolate what it is that's the main draw. That's a big message about what I want in my own life. What trends have you experienced in friendships or love?Stone/Getty Images