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Win the Scorpio Man


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Stay in Control, Confident

Many first dates are spent finding out about the other. But the Scorpio man is a fortress of secrets, guarded by eyes ready to pounce on any transgressor. It's best to stay on the outer edges, with questions about his interests, like movies, travel and food. He may be "reading" you on an intuitive level, sussing out who you are. You'll win points up front, if you telegraph that you respect his privacy.

If you're one that talks when nervous -- and who isn't nervous on first dates -- try your best to control it. Scorpios lose respect for someone that tells all, especially if you divulge your secrets too soon. If drinking makes you have loose lips, consider keeping your intake moderate.

The Scorpio man admires someone in control of themselves, and will be turned off by sloppy drunk behavior. The judging eyes of Scorpio man can be intimidating, if you're not confident with yourself. But if the ice breaks and he starts to warm up, you'll be glad you hung in there.

Finding the Rhythm

Getting closer to Scorpio is an all-encompassing experience. It's hard at first to know if he likes you or not. But if he's calling and wanting to get together, that's a sign that it's still "on." He's a serious kind of guy, so going deeper with him often means there's no turning back.  His is a fixed sign, and his attention can feel like a fixation!

He can turn nasty if he thinks he's been treated in a casual way. But some Scorpio men can't get over their distrust of people in general, so things may go south for reasons beyond your control.

Scorpio men do best with those that want soulful relationships, but can hold their own with a powerful mate. What's nourishing for Scorpio is to give of themselves wholly, and experience major cycles of change together. You'll know if your connection has caught that groove, and the trust is there to deepen the bond.

Seriously Sexy

The Scorpio man has a heightened sensuality that's often veiled behind that mask of self-control. He is a water sign, which means he's emotional and moves on his feelings.

You can hold his attention with subtle overtures that give just a tantalizing taste of what's to come. He wants to be teased by a sexually confident woman, so the pleasure is drawn out. He lives for the building of sexual tension.

You can create that atmosphere by dressing seductively with alluring extras like fragrances. Scorpios are all about timing. If you have a compatible rhythm, you'll know when to touch Scorpio's arm, or give the signal that you're open to their advances. But keep it private, and that means no big shows of PDA at his workplace.

Being discreet in public can allow tension to build, for those times alone.  He'll appreciate a woman who saves something for their intimacy, that's just for their eyes and ears only.

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