Zodiac Love Compatibility: Virgo Man and Pisces Woman

These opposites attract—but can it last?

A Virgo man and a Pisces woman hold hands
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Virgo and Pisces are polar opposites in terms of where they fall on the zodiac, but this pairing has some powerful things in common that can make a love connection work. For a Virgo man/Pisces woman relationship to thrive, a heavy dose of patience is required. Fortunately, both signs have what it takes to keep the faith— especially if they've made a commitment to stay together. 

What Pisces Loves About Virgo

One of the main things a Pisces woman will appreciate in a Virgo partner is that he's extremely attentive and even gallant in old-fashioned ways. He opens doors for her, carries heavy packages, and sees to her comfort and care. He wraps her in a throw when she's cold. He remembers that she takes almond milk in her coffee, and he's always punctual because he knows keeping someone waiting is a show of bad manners and disrespect.

In addition to being courtly, A Virgo is a master of timing and pace. Both Virgo and Pisces are sensitive souls who require adequate time to absorb and adjust to their experiences. Virgo men have an innate sense of when it's time to wait, and when it's time to take the next step. They are patient and willing to let things develop in their natural course, which is a bonus, since Pisces may take longer than most to make decisions.

The Virgo man's attention to detail makes the Pisces woman feel secure. She might even relax into herself and let him take care of business. He can feel needed, which he loves, and she is free to follow her own path, into more expressive, imaginative zones.

What Virgo Sees in Pisces

Pisces is a water sign ruled by Neptune, the planet named for the Roman deity who ruled the oceans and rivers of the earth. Pisces women can be extremely passionate, but their deep passions are often hidden beneath a seemingly calm surface. She may appear dreamy but Pisces is always seeking answers to life's bigger questions. Her mind is wrought up in esoteric, otherworldly considerations, rather than the mundane.

The Pisces woman is extremely intuitive. She can sense what others need, and if she's able will give it. The Virgo male knows instinctively that his mermaid offers the kind of empathy that can be trusted wholeheartedly. Over time, he will become comfortable enough with her to unwind his tightly wrapped body, mind, and spirit to join her in an atmosphere of romantic and erotic love. 

The flip side is that as something of an "emotional sponge," Pisces may be overwhelmed when bombarded by excessive negativity around her and feel the need to withdraw from conflict. She craves soulful intimacy and can become frustrated if her Virgo man is unable to relax simply and enjoy the moment. 

The Potential Pitfalls

Ruled by Mercury (and Chiron), it's no surprise that the Virgo male is has a mercurial nature. The wheels of his mind are continually spinning, and most likely focused on day-to-day issues. This kind of focus can lead to high degrees of stress, and pent-up frustration that can spill out if left unchecked.

On the other hand, while the Pisces gal is a woman of many moods, often, she doesn't appear to be associated with the here and now. Rather than sweating the small stuff, she's attuned to the subtleties of a bigger picture. She doesn't get bent out of shape over the kind of minor mishaps that can send the Virgo man into a frenzy of irritability. 

Pisces' lackadaisical ways and Virgo's instinct to run a tight ship can lead to an unhealthy relationship dynamic if the pair isn't careful. Patterns of blaming may develop in which Pisces is labeled "the irresponsible partner," while Virgo is cast in the role of either a long-suffering victim or a controlling manipulator. 

This worst-case scenario can be avoided if the couple recognizes the pattern early on and takes steps to address it. Learning to understand and respect one another's foibles and make allowances for them (within reason) can result in a satisfying arrangement for both parties.

Heaven and Earthly Delights

The setting for lovemaking matters to both parties in this pairing. The bedroom requires an ambiance that is extremely private, calming, and even sacred. Subtle lighting, rich fabrics, and pleasing aromas serve to heighten the atmosphere.

The Virgo man can be something of a neat freak, and Pisces women are not always the most conscientious housekeepers, so keeping the bedroom tidy may fall on him, but as an earth sign, he can be coaxed into sensual pleasures if the conditions are just right (all parties showered and definitely not during working hours, so don't count on him for afternoon delights). 

For Virgo and Pisces, the senses form a pathway that leads to continued unity. Shared sensual rituals of communion—such as meals, bathing, and mutual massage—can, over time, become the bridge that leads away from everyday stress to a haven where the couple can retreat to in order to refresh and renew their love.