Aries in Love - Zodiac Compatibility

Aries Love Compatibility

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Aries is a sign of bright, flashy bursts, and that's true in love. The Ram has a big presence, and like the Spring Sun, it's got the power to awaken the dead. 

More than other Zodiac signs, Aries has blind faith and tends to rush in. Aries daringly dives headlong into new situations, and the object of desire is the virgin territory. You might be head over heels with Aries, only to realize they are in love with the feeling of new love. 

Aries is sexy because they have naturally something other signs have to work for. They are 100% the genuine article and act from self-sourced impulses. Some Aries are inhibited, and those are ones that had tough beginnings. If someone tries to smother their light or shame them for it, Aries can have a hard time. 

Sometimes Female Aries get the message that being so expressive and lit up is bad, and to know your place. The understanding lover of a wounded Ram encourages them to shine, though it can come out in extremes, or in awkward ways, at first.  

Aries stays up late and is known for high physical energies. They're also competitive and come alive in vigorous (bordering on argumentative) debates. Aries feels optimistic when there's intensity, and this wears out some potential mates.  

The Aries dark side is being aggressive, and full of rage. The raw passion of Aries is what makes them so dynamic, as the most forceful fire sign. In love and life, they take the lead. They're cardinal signs, so they push out into new experiences and inspire others to follow.

Aries is ruled by Mars, and male Rams tend to be very masculine. And Aries women are at home with the guys, and have strong yang natures, but can revel in their femininity, too. 

The Ram needs a lover that gives as good as they get. They're demanding in love, and it takes a while for them to learn the give and take thing. 

An Aries in love then seeks someone who will be patient with them, and overlook their moments of extreme selfishness. The Aries ego needs to be reassured, and by a lover, they respect, and won't be cowed by their aggressive behavior. 

The Newborn

Linda Goodman, an Aries herself, made me realize what's at the heart of this Enfant terrible role that Aries plays. Aries is the Zodiac sign of rebirth in Spring, the resurrection, and the trusting -- sometimes screaming -- babe meeting the world. 

In Love Signs, Goodman writes, "Like a human infant totally self-absorbed, the Aries soul discovers with delight his own or her own toes and fingers -- its own physical beingness. To satisfy all needs, only a loud cry is necessary, heard and answered instantly by elders. The real infant doubts or fears nothing or no one, simply because it has never experienced denial. Likewise, the Aries 'infant' soul has natural trust and touching faith in the unseen force of goodness which will miraculously grant all its wishes."

Aries lovers disrupt your life, like a wee babe, making you stay up all night, and clean up their messes. Goodman writes that the ignored Aries "yells even louder for attention." And here's the crux of the matter -- they "seek acceptance, yet court rejection" and react violently to what the babe experiences as neglect. 

This is rough on those that get into relationships with them. Especially because the intensity of the cry ends just as suddenly as it begins. So sensitive souls beware and heed the wise words of this Aries astrologer extraordinaire.