Both the Cancer man and the Aquarius woman are cool in love at first. But the Cancer man is just pretending -- his aloofness is a defense against feeling too much, too soon! He's really a big softy afraid of getting hurt. The friendly ways of the Waterbearer help create the space cushion the Crab guy needs to open up.
Some lady Aquarians have an ethereal, unattainable presence. One thing is for sure -- Aquarians love their freedom! If the Cancer guy falls for her, he'll want to wrap his big claw arms around her -- and not let go! The relationship goes South quickly if he clings too much, and she doth protest!The Fastest Way to the Heart
For the Aquarius woman, it's through the bigger mind. Her Sun's planetary ruler is Uranus, the higher octave of messenger Mercury. She comes alive in buzzy conversations, or defying the norm. She's impressed by original thinking, and a passion for high-minded causes. If you're a trendsetter, and she likes your style, that's a plus. She's at home in odd mixes of people, and drawn to unusual atmospheres, from a dive bar to the slickest upscale establishment. She likes to be out and about.
The Cancer Man's heart opens with care -- thoughtfully prepared food and emotional understanding. He'll appreciate cozyfiers like pillows, slippers, salts for the bath. Soften him up with heartfelt movies, music that moves the soul, a lowkey dinner for two. He's at his best in unhurried, uncrowded places where he's not in sensory overload. He likes to be home most of all.Love Blooms When: Cancer guy feels a strong emotional bond. The Waterbearer finds the creative and intellectual stimulation she thrives on. The Cancer man has his cave to calm his waters. The gal Aquarius is free to run with the wind -- spending a lot of time with allies and friends.
Love grows when there's a balance between home life together, and time out with friends. Some compromises are advised here, to satisfy the true needs of the other.Emotional Trust
After some time dating, if the Cancer man is sure, he'll want to claim his woman. Being a cardinal sign, the male Cancer is ambitious, but he's happiest in his home sanctuary. Some Cancers are tradition-minded, and crave the experience of family, with kids. The Cancer man shines in the role of father, having that urge to nurture built into his astrological DNA.
The Crab guy likes the mantle of head of the household. For some Aquarians, emotional intimacy is not where they're most "at home." But an Aquarian woman with other planets in water signs, especially if its the Moon, her Ascendant or Venus, is sympatico. A felt rapport is needed here, for the Cancer man to give his heart fully. It's an unspoken current that's there or it's not -- Cancer is a water sign (feeling) and Aquarius an air sign (thinking).
Many air signs feel secure when there's mental common ground, with feelings secondary. There's a chasm to overcome here, to do with very different natures. But if both want to bridge the gap, it can be done!Tendencies to Watch For
- Cancer getting lost in subjective thinking, not seeing outside own feeling world.
- Aquarius too detached and objective -- using it as a way to avoid one-on-one intimacy.
Cancer man and Aquarius woman are known for being erratic -- Cancer emotionally and Aquarius mentally. Both have the tendency to be a bit crazy and lost in their own worlds. She's a shock wave rider, and defiantly independent. If this feels jarring to the male Crab, he could close up tight.
Some good old-fashioned love and understanding goes far. Stability in the home, and a commitment is an anchor. Having a sense of shared purpose seals the deal.