Upside: Mutual devotion; heightened awareness of needs; able to reassure the other; both like to plan things out (travel); thrive with the familiarity of the routine; enjoy nurturing children and animal friends.
Downside: Stress hits digestion for both; moods affect emotions; insecurity can be paralyzing; hypochondria; getting stuck in habits of criticism.Element and Quality
Cancer and Virgo start out on the right foot, since both are reserved, and neither tries to force their love on the other. Their courting may look downright old-fashioned to more restless types, with polite respect shown on both sides.
Things get messed up, if they try to match the popular pace of hooking up. They could act like it's okay to be "friends with benefits," but both seek the stability of commitment, though they may fear it too. They are so sensitive, it's easy for each to feel in over their heads. They react by being aloof, and going into retreat. The other can interpret this as disinterest. A remedy is to take things slowly, with much time to "process" what's happening.
Cancer appreciates how Virgo takes note of personal tastes, and tries to come up with well-chosen date ideas. Virgo feels needed right away, seeing how much Cancer could use help in practical matters. Virgo might try to "organize" Cancer from the get-go, which is a definite sign of interest. Cancer will appreciate being the center of this kind of attention unless it goes too far.
This mating brings two worriers together, but as a team they can cover all the bases. They'll be comforted by all the planning that goes into dates, and later, the pre-planning of everything helps minimize the shared fear of the unknown.
A key word is Security, since once they've got it, Cancer and Virgo can truly be themselves. If they don't have it, both can be aloof basket cases. If they're successful at creating a foundation of trust, the relationship deepens, and more layers are revealed. Cancer and Virgo appreciate the routine of life, with the promise of lots of time to work out the kinks, and grow closer.
Virgo is a sensor-thinker and Cancer is a feeler, and sometimes this can lead to misunderstandings. Without realizing it, Virgo can offend Cancer by talking about things in an unemotional way. On the flip side, Virgo may find the lunar moodiness a bit jarring to their love of order. This difference turns into a gift when through osmosis, Cancer gains much-needed perspective, and Virgo grows aware of emotional nuances.
In relationships, the Cancer-Virgo match can be loving, sensual and devoted. Cancer values the loyalty that Virgo offers, and tries hard to show it through day to day nurturing. Virgo starts to feel secure in the caring atmosphere that's created between them. Intimacy can be yet another chance to please each other, with Virgo's masterful attention to detail and Cancer's languid sensuality. This pairing is marriage material, and once the commitment is made, will likely be for life.
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Cancer and Virgo Love Story
I am a Virgo. My ex was a Cancer. We were both reserved so it was a bit of a slow start. I did feel needed and I did try to help my ex overcome her low self esteem. She was worried about everything. I was the one that tried to find solutions but she never helped and never appreciated what I did. We did argue a lot about the same things over and over. She preferred to avoid discussing things rather than resolve issues so we were stuck on the same discussions. However, even after being engaged, my Cancer left. All in all, it lasted 2 years and basically ended because Cancer wasn't ready for commitment after all.
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