Upside: full engagement in love; disciplined; work-oriented; both healers; cleaning (purging) very cathartic; insightful; realists; practical magic.
Downside: right time (Virgo) vs. all the time (Scorpio); defensive and critical; passionate (Virgo) vs. sensual (Scorpio); subtle signs missed (signals crossed).
Virgo and Scorpio act like covert agents on first dates. A tricky issue here is neither likes to reveal too much about themselves. Both have a tendency to convey a neutral attitude, not wanting to give anything away. There's a lot of sizing up before either is given security clearance.
Scorpio is the stealth lover, and will want to feel out Virgo, for signs of interest. Scorpio sends subtle messages and looks for ways to sensually tease to build delicious tension. Some Virgos are earthbound and on the demure side. If Virgo sticks to the program or nervously talks data or systems processing, Scorpio might not find a way to show off their smooth moves. And thus look elsewhere for the intensity they're seeking.
Virgo is more cautious in love than Scorpio, but both like to guard their secrets. Each has an aura of self-containment, which can be mutually fascinating, and stir up the sense of challenge. They peer at each other with a discriminating gaze. But they both love to analyze people and situations, and that makes the conversation flow easily. Soon they discover they're both 'realists' who see the cold hard facts of life.
Scorpio's gift for saying startlingly true things may overwhelm the guarded Virgo. And if Virgo turns a critical eye on Scorpio, the latter has been known to escalate the conflict with a few observations of their own. Both can dish it out, but neither takes it very well. Being in the spotlight triggers defensive behavior. They'll need to learn when to offer criticism, and when to bolster the other with support.
Virgo admires the Scorpio ability to hone in on one life goal at a time. Both like to stay productive, and work toward tangible goals. At times, they may seem more like allies, with strategy sessions over breakfast, than lovers. Taking time to do things just or fun, though hard or these signs, is well worth it. Both need many outlets to decompress from the stress o lie, and grow closer when it's a shared activity that's enjoyable too.
Scorpio is reassured by the Virgo's need for daily structure, and the need for solitude gives Scorpio time to do their own thing, as well. To Scorpio, high strung Virgo may seem all-over-the-place, unable to find traction for their goals.
An unevolved Scorpio could take advantage of an insecure Virgo, and wield a kind of dark psychic power that 'bad Scorpios' are infamous for. At its extreme, you've got master and servant dynamics that potentially bring out the worst in both.
Virgo needs full disclosure and honesty, once the trust is established, and this means Scorpio regularly goes beyond the comfort zone. But when Scorpio has found a loyal Virgo mate, there's a chance that openness becomes the norm. Intimacy brings out the deep sensuality and intense sex drive of Scorpio, while Virgo prefers quality over quantity.
But both appreciate technical prowess, making their sex life an area of growth. Much can be smoothed over with physical intimacy. Scorpio will need to be patient with Virgo's reserved (at times) style. But a Virgo that feels secure and is comfortable with the setting, is game for the everlasting tactile experience. The Virgin is an earth sign, albeit a sensitive one, that seeks clean places to rendezvous.
There are built-in challenges here, but a tendency of both to mate for life increasing their chances for an enduring love.